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Think about these two words: spend and invest. Would you like your bank to spend your money or invest it? Since spending implies the money may be wasted, you probably would like a bank that invests. Similarly think about the words, problem and challenge, or bodies and people. The words we use have an influence on how we think. Since thoughts determine actions, there’s a powerful connection between the words we use and the results we get.
Poorly chosen words can kill enthusiasm, impact self-esteem, lower expectations and hold people back. Well chosen and good words can inspire, motivate, offer hope, impact thinking and alter results.
Try addressing people with their full name or good salutation and see amazing results how you win their hearts.
The Messenger of Allah Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “To smile in the company of your brother is charity. ” (Bukhari)
It seems that nothing has more power to elevate a mood than the impact of a genuine smile. The benefits of a smile extend not only to the recipient of the warm gesture but also to the smile’s originator. “A smile is a little curve that sets a lot of things straight.” Here are some of the many …..
Benefits of Smiling!
1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive- People are spending millions on cosmetic products and procedures to make them look better.If you want to look better, try adding a genuine smile. Its cheaper and mush more attractive.The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don’t go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day — you’ll look younger and feel better.
2. Smiling Changes Our Mood-Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There’s a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.
3. Smiling Is Contagious-When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them.
4. Smiling Relieves Stress-Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you’ll be better able to take action.Smiling helps to promote release of a “feel good” group of hormones called endorphins. These are the same group of hormones responsible for the runners high you hear so much about. If you don’t have time to get to the gym for a hard run, try adding a smile to boost these natural, stress relieving hormones.
5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System-Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.
6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure-When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?
7. Smiling is medication-Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug and leads to a healthier immune system.Various studies conducted over the years have shown that smiling can boost the functioning of the immune system. This may help to reduce your risk of developing everything from the common cold to chronic diseases such as
cancer. Could there be a less expensive medicine than this?
8. A smile inspires others-When you smile you also send a positive message that can potentially change someone else’s mood for the better. The person you graced with your smile may go on to pass the kindness to someone else. Who knows how far your original smile will travel?
9. Smiling promotes Success -Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently. When you smile, you appear confident and capable. Given the choice between two equally qualified job candidates, the smiling candidate is going to be perceived as being more of a team player and easier to work with. Who do you think is more likely to get the job offer?
10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive-Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It’s hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that “Life is Good!” Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.
Smile..!!!.. .It does not cost a cent and can make a persons day!
“It takes seventeen muscles to smile and forty-three to frown”.
The greatest reason for smiling is because it is a sunnah [practice] of our Beloved Messenger of Allah [peace be upon him]!!!. The Messenger of Allah[pbuh] had a smiling face and advised us to entertain our guest with a smiling face and good conduct. To smile is an act of charity!
‘Failures are steps in the ladder of success.’- James Allen
‘If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sure sign that you’re not trying anything very innovative.’- Woody Allen
‘Ever tried? Ever failed? No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.’- Samuel Beckett
It takes sixty-five thousand errors before you are qualified to make a rocket.’- Werhner von Braun
‘In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.’- Gaius Cassius
‘The most important of my discoveries have been suggested to me by failures.’- Sir Humphry Davy
‘You may not realise it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.’- Walt Disney
‘Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.’- Thomas Alva Edison
‘Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.‘- Thomas Alva Edison
‘Just because something doesn’t do what you planned it to do doesn’t mean it’s useless.’- Thomas Alva Edison
‘Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.’- F. Scott Fitzgerald
‘A man may fail many times but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.’- J. Paul Getty
‘We’re all human and we all goof. Do things that may be wrong, but do something.’- Newt Gingrich
‘Success consists of getting up just one more time than you fall.’- Oliver Goldsmith
‘Our greatest glory consists not in never failing but in rising every time we fall.’- Oliver Goldsmith
‘No man ever became great or good except through many and great mistakes.’- William Gladstone
“Success is always temporary. When all is said and done, the only thing you’ll have left is your character.” - Vince Gill
“I admire men of character, and I judge character not by how men deal with their superiors, but mostly how they deal with their subordinates, and that, to me, is where you find out what the character of a man is”- Gen. H. Norman Schwartzkop
“Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.” - Elbert Hubbard
“You change your life by changing your heart.”
“Character is like the foundation of a house - it is below the surface.”
A Forestry Commissioner had just felled a giant tree when, seeing an honest man approaching, he dropped his axe and ran away. The next day when he returned to get his axe, he found the following lines written on the stump:
“What nature reared by centuries of toil, A scalawag in half a day can spoil; An equal fate for him may Heaven provide - Damned in the moment of his tallest pride.”
Today in the first day of 3rd Creative Leaders Conference, there was a very thought-provoking and energetic presentation of Mz Shireen Naqvi who is the head of School of Leadership in Karachi. In her lecture, I liked these wise words very much. To know oneself truly and honestly, one should see one’s following aspects:
You are what you think.
You are what you do.
You are what you care about.
You are what … continue
Know Thyself and Thou shalt know the universe and the gods.
– Inscription of the Temple of Delphi.
“Life is short. Time is fleeting. Realise the Self. Purity of the heart is the gateway to God. Aspire. Renounce. Meditate. Be good; do good. Be kind; be compassionate. Inquire, know Thyself.”
~William Hazlitt~
“He who knows others is wise.
He who knows himself is enlightened.”
~ Lao Tzu
One of the most important precepts of wisdom is to know oneself.
– Socrates.
How can the soul which misunderstands itself have a sure idea of other creatures?
– Seneca
“You know more than you think you know you do.”
–Benjamin Spock
To know oneself is one of the hardest tasks in the world. But to make this hardest task a bit easier, here are 75 questions which you should ask to yourself and try to answer. You can ask yourself these questions right now and over the course of your life. When one starts knowing oneself, it becomes easier for him to improve himself or herself.
1. Why not me?
2. Am I nice?
3. Am I doing what I really want to do?
4. What am I grateful for?
5. What’s missing in my life?
6. Am I honest?
7. Do I listen to others?
8. Do I work hard?
9. Do I help others?
10. What do I need to change about myself?
11. Have I hurt others?
12. Do I complain?
13. What’s next for me?
14. Do I have fun?
15. Have I seized opportunities?
16. Do I care about others?
17. Do I spend enough time with my family?
18. Am I open-minded?
19. Have I seen enough of the world?
20. Do I judge others?
21. Do I take risks?
22. What is my purpose?
23. What is my biggest fear?
24. How can I conquer that fear?
25. Do I thank people enough?
26. Am I successful?
27. What am I ashamed of?
28. Do I annoy others?
29. What are my dreams?
30. Am I positive?
31. Am I negative?
32. Is there an afterlife?
33. Does everything happen for a reason?
34. What can I do to change the world?
35. What is the most foolish thing I’ve ever done?
36. Am I cheap?
37. Am I greedy?
38. Who do I love?
39. Who do I want to meet?
40. Where do I want to go?
41. What am I most proud of?
42. Do I care what others think about me?
43. What are my talents?
44. Do I utilize those talents?
45. What makes me happy?
46. What makes me sad?
47. What makes me angry?
48. Am I satisfied with my appearance?
49. Am I healthy?
50. What was the toughest time in my life?
51. What was the easiest time in my life?
52. Am I selfish?
53. What was the craziest thing I did?
54. What is the craziest thing I want to do?
55. Do I procrastinate?
56. What is my greatest regret?
57. What has had the greatest impact on my life?
58. Who has had the greatest impact on my life?
59. Do I stand up for myself?
60. Have I settled for mediocrity?
61. Do I hold grudges?
62. Do I read enough?
63. Do I listen to my heart?
64. Do I donate enough to the less fortunate?
65. Do I pray only when I want something?
66. Do I constantly dwell on the past?
67. Do I let other people’s negativity affect me?
68. Do I forgive myself?
69. When I help someone do I think “What’s in it for me”?
70. Am I aware that someone always has it worse than me?
71. Do I smile more than I frown?
72. Do I surround myself with good people?
73. Do I take time out for myself?
74. Do I ask enough questions?
75. What other questions do I have?
Bruce Barton said, ‘For good or ill, your converstation is your advertisement. Every time you open your mouth you let the people look into your mind.’ I cannot recall right now but I am sure I once read similar concept that had been given 14 hundred centuries ago by Hazrat Ali (RA). You cannot judge a person just by his or her appearance. What is inside becomes obvious only when one opens his/her mouth to utter words. The words are the true reflection and mirror of one’s personality. Thats why centuries old phrase is yet applicable even today, ‘Think Twice Before You Speak’.
All can’t remain happy all the time.
It would be foolishness to wish for a life, filled with happiness alone;
Happiness is more when woes come in-between.
Happiness is just a feeling weird!
Life could become boring and monotonous, when happiness is prolonged.
Even the pauper can be happier than the prince.
Even the beggar smiles and sleeps well, despite much strife.
Happiness is all within;
Happiness is in giving;
Happiness is in sharing;
Happiness is the ceiling, whatever you fix!
Dr John Celes
Kill Anger Before It Kills You!
‘A smile on your face can be felt on another’s heart’ - (Rhonda Marlow). This beautiful quote has been text to me by Mr. Farrukh Abass from Muhammad Ali Jinnah University Islamabad. I can explain it in the context of mind sciences. When you smile, you emit a ray of positive energy and it overwhelms the person who is looking at your face thereby affecting his heart’s feelings. So, the best way to win their hearts is to keep smiling.
These are the words of Hazrat Ali (Razi Allah Anhu) and so there is no doubt in their being true. In fact, the path to find God passes through our own selves. As it is rightly said, ‘mun aa ra fa nafsuhu, fa qad aa ra fa Rabbu hu’. But to reach God, we have to grasp and use the same ray of spirit which God instilled in all of us when He created us in Alam e Arwa.
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